Falling in love with locals while traveling happens to so many people all around the world. I think is amazing to have international relationship and itĀ“s completely normal to have one. However you should always be careful when it comes to dating Cubans. I know it sounds ridiculous since I am married to one…
So many of girls goes to Cuba looking for amazing holidays, mojitos, salsa and white sand beaches. Most of them donĀ“t plan to get involved with local guys, not even mentioning about finding a boyfriend there. How come then the same girls finish spending all their money in flight tickets and visas to get their loved ones out of Cuba? The other ones finish heartbroken after discovering that the love that was promised through the IMO was not real and their Cubans have somebody else.
But on the other hand there are so many great guys out there. I have so many friends who end up super happy after marrying a Cuban guy. So how can you ever be sure if youĀ“re falling into a good guy or the bad guy? I have some tips totally based on my own observations and stories IĀ“ve been told. The histories without happy ends unfortunately.
So if youĀ“re falling for a Cuban this is what you should be looking at (in my opinion of course!) :
1. šØāā¤ļøāš©Age difference. For me age is just a number. I am 3 years older than Fidel. My mum is 7 years older than my dad (34 years together!!). But…Cubans are known for looking for older Yumas to get involved with. Women in their 30’s and 40’s are more likely to have money. 20 year old girls are still in college or not earning as much as some guys would expect them to. Also ladies who have been single for some time fall in love quite quick. And these guys know it. I know ladies who brought home Cubans, who were younger than them. They are single now, and their loved ones? Ended up back in Cuba or left with another girl. Just something to be careful about.
2. šĀ He proposes very quickly.Ā If you met your guy one day, spent another few in his town and after you exchange the contact he proposes, there may be something suspicious about it. Would you accept a guy whom you’ve known for 2 weeks if he wasn’t this handsome Cuban with beautiful smile and salsa moves? By proposing, Cubans just take the shot. For them it’s a chance for a better life and they don’t even risk anything. You will be the one paying for everything, worrying for everything, if he gets the passport, if they will give him a visa, if he can stay with you in your country. He will continue chilled like always.
3. š¤There’s a communication issue.Ā If you don’t speak fluent Spanish and he doesn’t speak English or your language, there may be a problem. He will say that it doesn’t matter, that you understand each other and the body language is the most important. In reality how can you think seriously about somebody you have a hard time to talk to. The conversations in the beginning may be very basic and you won’t see it but not being able to discuss important stuff gets really frustrating.
4.š°There’s a money issue.Ā Most of guys who wants to leave Cuba are smart. They will not ask you for money straight away. They will do it later. They will tell you about how bad and poor the life in Cuba is and how expensive the internet is. And you will end up recharging their phone (because by now you can’t imagine your day without IMO chat with him) , buying them stuff and leaving them money.
5.šŗHe’s too perfect.Ā I know it’s a dream of all of us š But if you found this great looking Cubano, and you fell like you were in the 7th heaven because here you are in the middle of Cuba and this guy is dancing with you and all the girls envy you. But remember that Latin guys are born with the “great lover gene”. They know exactly what to do, exactly what to say to make you theirs. and hot Cuban weather and strong rum make the perfect scenario to introduce you. Who doesn’t want to be able to say back home that they had this amazing Latino romance in Cuba? And if they’re too perfect maybe it’s because they have big experience in doing what they do. Just a thing to consider.
6.š¤µHe doesn’t work.Ā The wages in Cuba are not that good I know. But if somebody choose not to work and still goes out and stay connected online all the time you should be asking yourself where is all the money coming from…
I know it all sounds horrible. I really don’t want to discourage you to date Cubans šĀ šØšŗĀ I just wanted to answer the ultimate question you’re asking me in your emails : how to know if the guy is not just trying to scam you and how to avoid being scammed in Cuba.
I wonder what your experiences are. I love to listen to the loves stories šĀ ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
And how does the right guy looks like? For me like this š
FidelĀ“s Girl 
Never marry a Cuban and most importantly don’t sponsor him out of Cuba. Leave your angels in paradise.
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Never say never š also bad people are all over the world. Anyone can hurt you. A lot of Cubans date tourists just to get out of Cuba but not all Cubans are assholes….
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yes P, leave them there, as soon as they come out they transform into somebody else
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When did you knew for sure that Fidel was with you for the right reasons?
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Hi Lola! Well i kind of trusted on my guts. I observed him. I observed how he treated others and me. And went there for few months just to be sure it was it. I dont think i would invite him before having this 121 time in Cuba. We lived together for few months and then i knew he was honest.
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Thank you for this article. It tally helps me with many issues. Iāve been seeing a Cuban for 2 1/2 months. We speak by text 2-3 times a day. FaceTime everyday as well. He works at a hotel at reception. My friends let him as well. I am returning for a third time in 2 weeks. We have recently told each other we love each other , his family and friends know me. He has mentioned marriage and moving here or vice versa. That was expected. Thereās not a day I donāt hear from him. He is trying to find money to pay his flight to come see me. Not an easy task. But itās my way of seeing effort. I have recharged his phone. He has asked me for gifts but thatās slowed down. My concern are as follows heās 12 years younger than I. Very mature for his age. Seems genuine. Family loving. Hard worker. Answers his phone always no matter where he is. But the age difference , and knowing thereās a chance he might be using me scares me. Weāre falling in love with each Other and It bothers me that I question him. Itās not fair to me nor him. How can i know for sure heās truly in love with me and Iām not just a dollar sign and his way out. How did you know?
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Hi Sarah š Well I didn’t know until I decided that the only way I would ever find out if it’s real was to live in Cuba for some time. I don’t think it’s possible to get to know each other well on holiday trips even if you go often. Holidays will be holidays, no matter what. So I moved to ViƱales into this tiny wooden house for half a year. I know itĀ“s not always possible but highly recommended. I knew that if something goes wrong I can always come back home, put myself together and remember the “at least I lived in Cuba” experience. It would hurt me less that bring him here and than find out it was not worth it. The age…not always a problem. I know a Cuban guy here in Poland who came here with his girlfriend (the same age, pretty) but was not in love so when the first problems came he left her. He just got engaged to another girl. They look really in love but I canĀ“t stop thinking about his first girl. How shitty must she feel. It was her who invested time, money and feelings and another girl got her Cuban on the plate. So for me the test was Cuba. First of all if you share your plan with your love and heĀ“s not excited about you moving to Cuba itĀ“s a red flag. If the guy is in love he would be thrilled that you want to live with him. If he just thinks about leaving he will try to convince you that itĀ“s a bad idea and Cuba is hard to live in (which is true) maybe you should give this relationship more time. Just my opinion because living together in Cuba really worked for us š Good luck with everything.
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hello, just read this and wondering how things are for you? let me know:)
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Hi there, I read your article, very interesting. I met a 27 year old good looking Cuban on my trip to Cuba in March. We started chatted online in early April. He declared how much he loved me within the week. He was desperate to get out of Cuba and wanted to get married. By the second week, he was asking me to charge his phone, and since we agreed to see each other at the end of May, he asked me to buy him a cellphone, cologne and RayBan sunglasses!!!! Finally he asked me to invest in his new business……1500 CUC!!! Of course I turned him down. Since we were Facebook friends, I commented on his posting that he made on May 10, my comment ended with mi amor, and he blocked me within 30 seconds or less!!! LOL!!! I guess he didn’t want his friends and family to know about me. Since May 10, we’ve had no communication as he also blocked me on WhatsApp!
I am still heading to La Habana tonight, no reason to cancel my trip. I will be going with the original plans, staying at the Casa where he works. This is going to be entertaining! : )
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Hello! That sucks! Im sorry you found that kind person on your way…at least you knew pretty soon what he wanted. Do let him ruin your Cuban holidays š
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Hello, yes I was needing some advice! I met a Cuban man in Santiago de Cuba. He works, his family have all met me on videoshat through WhatsApp. Antonio after 5 months of texting each other. We met in St. Kitts and Nevis November 20th 2019 for the first time in person. It was better then expected! He speaks a little english and I speak a little spanish. So we communicate in both languages. We planned a trip April of 2020 but the pandemic prevented us from seeing each other. I am flying in the next couple weeks to finally meet his family for the first time. I send him from time to time during promotion periods money to recharge his phone. He hasn’t ever asked me for money. He does say that living in santiago has gotten difficult due to shortages in food. Which is understandable due to the changes in Cuba. I do believe he loves me. He is interested in everything I do and we have goals that we want to accomplish together. He and I both have the same interests and get along very good together. The one thing when we met that caught my attention was when he told me that ” what good is it if a man loves a woman for her beauty, there are other things I miss in a woman more then being beautiful”? ” What is a woman if she has beauty but no heart”? The other is when he told me “Britney, you can not believe every man is the same, happiness only knocks on your door once, but you must differentiate the truth from the lie and you know very well that your heart is the best layer in this case.”? These two things really got to me. He has talked about marriage. He is not able to have children and know I have 5 of my own. He has met them all on video chat and asks about my children all the time. I’m 36 and he is 27. There is a age difference. He also video chats me every single night we chat through the day. It’s been like this since the first day we met. I just wanted your opinion on whether you think he loves me or is just using me. I have talked with him about my fears if he were to come here. He will tell me that will never happen and to not think negative, that I need to stay positive in our relationship and realize we have goals that we want to accomplish together, that he loves me and he could not imagine his life with anyone else. Help?!
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I met this Cuban guy on my birthday trip in January. He speaks Spanish and I speak English, we use a laptop for FaceTime and my phone for google translate for conversation. He works really hard to take care of his mom and he tells me āIām not going to lie to you but I want to leave this placeā heās 33 Iām 46. They always say look how a man treats his mom and thatās how he will treat his woman. He never really ask me for anything I always offer, and heās always telling me donāt get that itās too expensive. Iām going back in May to celebrate his birthday this guy might not ask but he has expensive taste. Iām currently helping him with his passport he doesnāt need me for visa he can get citizenship to Jamaica and from there he can apply for visa. He said he wants to be able to travel back and forth to see him mom. What do you think, do you think heās a user ?
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hi! first of all i donĀ“t know him š but the fact he is honest about leaving is a good sign. The situation in cuba is worse every time i go there (for Cubans). I donĀ“t blame them. Half of my family wishes they could go even for some years to make some money. Cuba is great with money. Also i wouldnt be concern about the age gap. My mum is older than my dad. Fidels brother is 12 younger from his Cuban wife. They just donĀ“t pay too much attention to this. I also donĀ“t know where did you guys meet? How much time you spent together? etc if you see some red flags probably itĀ“s not a greatest catch, but if you donĀ“t then maybe you should give him a chance
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