6 signs you may be falling for the wrong Cuban guy

Falling in love with locals while traveling happens to so many people all around the world. I think is amazing to have international relationship and it´s completely normal to have one. However you should always be careful when it comes to dating Cubans. I know it sounds ridiculous since I am married to one…

So many of girls goes to Cuba looking for amazing holidays, mojitos, salsa and white sand beaches. Most of them don´t plan to get involved with local guys, not even mentioning about finding a boyfriend there. How come then the same girls finish spending all their money in flight tickets and visas to get their loved ones out of Cuba? The other ones finish heartbroken after discovering that the love that was promised through the IMO was not real and their Cubans have somebody else.

But on the other hand there are so many great guys out there. I have so many friends who end up super happy after marrying a Cuban guy. So how can you ever be sure if you´re falling into a good guy or the bad guy? I have some tips totally based on my own observations and stories I´ve been told. The histories without happy ends unfortunately.

So if you´re falling for a Cuban this is what you should be looking at (in my opinion of course!) :

1. 👨‍❤️‍👩Age difference. For me age is just a number. I am 3 years older than Fidel. My mum is 7 years older than my dad (34 years together!!). But…Cubans are known for looking for older Yumas to get involved with. Women in their 30’s and 40’s are more likely to have money. 20 year old girls are still in college or not earning as much as some guys would expect them to. Also ladies who have been single for some time fall in love quite quick. And these guys know it. I know ladies who brought home Cubans, who were younger than them. They are single now, and their loved ones? Ended up back in Cuba or left with another girl. Just something to be careful about.

2. 💍 He proposes very quickly. If you met your guy one day, spent another few in his town and after you exchange the contact he proposes, there may be something suspicious about it. Would you accept a guy whom you’ve known for 2 weeks if he wasn’t this handsome Cuban with beautiful smile and salsa moves? By proposing, Cubans just take the shot. For them it’s a chance for a better life and they don’t even risk anything. You will be the one paying for everything, worrying for everything, if he gets the passport, if they will give him a visa, if he can stay with you in your country. He will continue chilled like always.

3. 🤐There’s a communication issue. If you don’t speak fluent Spanish and he doesn’t speak English or your language, there may be a problem. He will say that it doesn’t matter, that you understand each other and the body language is the most important. In reality how can you think seriously about somebody you have a hard time to talk to. The conversations in the beginning may be very basic and you won’t see it but not being able to discuss important stuff gets really frustrating.

4.💰There’s a money issue. Most of guys who wants to leave Cuba are smart. They will not ask you for money straight away. They will do it later. They will tell you about how bad and poor the life in Cuba is and how expensive the internet is. And you will end up recharging their phone (because by now you can’t imagine your day without IMO chat with him) , buying them stuff and leaving them money.

5.🕺He’s too perfect. I know it’s a dream of all of us 🙂 But if you found this great looking Cubano, and you fell like you were in the 7th heaven because here you are in the middle of Cuba and this guy is dancing with you and all the girls envy you. But remember that Latin guys are born with the “great lover gene”. They know exactly what to do, exactly what to say to make you theirs. and hot Cuban weather and strong rum make the perfect scenario to introduce you. Who doesn’t want to be able to say back home that they had this amazing Latino romance in Cuba? And if they’re too perfect maybe it’s because they have big experience in doing what they do. Just a thing to consider.

6.🤵He doesn’t work. The wages in Cuba are not that good I know. But if somebody choose not to work and still goes out and stay connected online all the time you should be asking yourself where is all the money coming from…

I know it all sounds horrible. I really don’t want to discourage you to date Cubans 🙂 🇨🇺 I just wanted to answer the ultimate question you’re asking me in your emails : how to know if the guy is not just trying to scam you and how to avoid being scammed in Cuba.

I wonder what your experiences are. I love to listen to the loves stories 🙂 ❤️❤️❤️

And how does the right guy looks like? For me like this 🙂

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6 thoughts on “6 signs you may be falling for the wrong Cuban guy

    • Hi Lola! Well i kind of trusted on my guts. I observed him. I observed how he treated others and me. And went there for few months just to be sure it was it. I dont think i would invite him before having this 121 time in Cuba. We lived together for few months and then i knew he was honest.

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  1. Thank you for this article. It tally helps me with many issues. I’ve been seeing a Cuban for 2 1/2 months. We speak by text 2-3 times a day. FaceTime everyday as well. He works at a hotel at reception. My friends let him as well. I am returning for a third time in 2 weeks. We have recently told each other we love each other , his family and friends know me. He has mentioned marriage and moving here or vice versa. That was expected. There’s not a day I don’t hear from him. He is trying to find money to pay his flight to come see me. Not an easy task. But it’s my way of seeing effort. I have recharged his phone. He has asked me for gifts but that’s slowed down. My concern are as follows he’s 12 years younger than I. Very mature for his age. Seems genuine. Family loving. Hard worker. Answers his phone always no matter where he is. But the age difference , and knowing there’s a chance he might be using me scares me. We’re falling in love with each Other and It bothers me that I question him. It’s not fair to me nor him. How can i know for sure he’s truly in love with me and I’m not just a dollar sign and his way out. How did you know?

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    • Hi Sarah 🙂 Well I didn’t know until I decided that the only way I would ever find out if it’s real was to live in Cuba for some time. I don’t think it’s possible to get to know each other well on holiday trips even if you go often. Holidays will be holidays, no matter what. So I moved to Viñales into this tiny wooden house for half a year. I know it´s not always possible but highly recommended. I knew that if something goes wrong I can always come back home, put myself together and remember the “at least I lived in Cuba” experience. It would hurt me less that bring him here and than find out it was not worth it. The age…not always a problem. I know a Cuban guy here in Poland who came here with his girlfriend (the same age, pretty) but was not in love so when the first problems came he left her. He just got engaged to another girl. They look really in love but I can´t stop thinking about his first girl. How shitty must she feel. It was her who invested time, money and feelings and another girl got her Cuban on the plate. So for me the test was Cuba. First of all if you share your plan with your love and he´s not excited about you moving to Cuba it´s a red flag. If the guy is in love he would be thrilled that you want to live with him. If he just thinks about leaving he will try to convince you that it´s a bad idea and Cuba is hard to live in (which is true) maybe you should give this relationship more time. Just my opinion because living together in Cuba really worked for us 🙂 Good luck with everything.

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